35 Men and their Emotions

Men have been taught to hide their emotions since childhood.  And crying was strictly a no-no!!  All the emotions and crying were supposed to be done by girls.  Over a period of time, it has been agreed in society that men don’t have any emotions.  In case they show any signs of emotions, they are termed a sissy and left alone.  All of this have created a small divide over the current husband-wife relationship.

We have often seen that men often feel the need to be self-sufficient and don’t share their feelings with their spouses.  Whereas the women openly express their feelings and quickly want the support of their spouse, family and friends, in any order they feel like!! 

Just because men don’t show their emotions, it does not mean that they don’t have feelings.  They just don’t show it outside.  Those who have shown it have found it to be counter-productive.  Seeing the men’s emotions, many women have wrongly thought that their spouse is not brave enough to withstand the problem.  This leads to further problem of ensuring that whenever such a problem occurs again, the man will keep quiet and will not show his emotion openly.  He is aware that if he shows his emotions, the matter will flare leading to un-necessary worry by his spouse.  He therefore again goes back to his shell.

Most of the times, men don’t want to repeat the same thing again and again.  It may be due the other person not listening properly or even doing the same mistake again and again.  They feel that it is on behalf of them only Rajnikanth had said, if I (a man) said something once, it means I have said it 100 times😊.

Major emotion of men comes out as anger as they are not able to show their emotions properly.  This uneasiness takes the form of anger, which is how they are then remembered!! 

Nowadays the scenario is slightly changing.  Men are also now able to show their emotions, albeit on a lesser scale.  In the current scenario where both husband and wife work, anger has no space.  In case one gets angry, this will take a long time to get sorted out as both of them have very little time to sit and talk due to their busy office work.  So, some of the men also have started showing some emotions without holding back.

Crying openly is not considered manly.  Whenever I see some movies that has emotional content, I cry openly.  I make sure that I start wiping my tears even before they start falling on my face!!  But my spouse is quick to see me crying and informs our kids that their father is crying!!  Now they are used to seeing my somewhat wet face!!

Getting to show your emotions for a man is a good thing, in case it gets accepted.  In case he finds there are cons to his showing of emotions, he will go back to his shell and show the emotions somewhere else, like on sports field or cheering his team or among his close friends.  So don’t get bothered if your man is not showing his emotions to you.  He has far greater things in his mind rather than showing some emotions!!  Cheers!!

Today’s daffy definition

Worry – Interest paid on trouble before it falls due!!